Yes! To Life Retreat
Cultivating Sexual Sovereignty, Honoring Wholeness

Join Dr. Saida Desilets, Barbara Collier, and Aaron Michael for a life-changing experience at Imiloa Institute in Costa Rica.

Yes! To Life is a journey of profound self-discovery, empowerment, and liberation. It's a place where you can learn to move beyond limitations and claim your primal aliveness.

Sexual Sovereignty

…is not just about individual freedom; it's about cultivating a deep and respectful relationship with our own sexuality. It's about honoring our bodies, our desires, and our boundaries. It's about reclaiming our power and living a life of pleasure, joy, and authentic connection. Ultimately, it’s about celebrating the freedom we can experience when we access our erotic intelligence and create our most fulfilling, nourishing, and inspiring intimate life.

During this retreat nestled in the breathtaking beauty of Costa Rica, you will explore:

Self-regulation & safety in the body
Recognizing and honoring your body's yes, no, and maybe
Consent & boundaries
Presence & attunement
Trust & thriving
Solo attunement & enlivenment
Healthy, playful partner dynamics

Who Should Attend?

The Yes! To Life Retreat: Cultivating Sexual Sovereignty, Honoring Wholeness is designed for anyone seeking to deepen their connection to themselves, their sexuality, and their sense of wholeness. This retreat is for individuals of all genders and sexual orientations, whether attending solo or with a partner.

Those seeking personal growth: If you are on a journey of self-discovery and wish to explore the intersection of sexuality, identity, and wholeness, this retreat offers a supportive and safe environment for exploration.
Individuals looking to reclaim sexual sovereignty: For those ready to reconnect with their authentic desires, boundaries, and self-expression, this retreat empowers you to embrace your unique sexual identity with confidence.
Couples seeking deeper connection: Partners who want to strengthen intimacy, communication, and mutual understanding will benefit from guided practices and tools for cultivating a healthier, more harmonious relationship.
Anyone navigating past experiences: If you are processing the impact of trauma, cultural conditioning, or shame around sexuality, this retreat provides a compassionate space for healing and transformation.
People desiring an inclusive community: Whether LGBTQ+, cisgender, or nonbinary, this retreat is an inclusive and affirming space for all individuals to feel seen, heard, and supported.

Why Should You Attend?

To cultivate sexual sovereignty: Learn how to honor your boundaries, desires, and choices while fostering a sense of agency over your sexual experiences.
To celebrate and honor wholeness: Engage in practices that support self-acceptance and integrate the physical, emotional, and spiritual aspects of your being.
To explore in a safe space: The retreat is a judgment-free zone where participants can safely explore their relationship with their sexuality and self-expression.
To connect and grow: Experience the power of being part of a community that values inclusivity, authenticity, and mutual respect.
To heal and transform: Gain tools to release limiting beliefs, heal past wounds, and step into a more empowered and joyful relationship with yourself and others.

This retreat is a transformative opportunity to reconnect with yourself, honor your journey, and step fully into your authentic sexual and relational wholeness.

This is a substance-free retreat: A substance-free environment is one in which all guests agree to keep their space free from substances. Substances are defined to include alcohol, cigarettes, e-cigarettes, cannabis, other smoking materials, and illicit and illegal drugs.

Note: This retreat is not intended to treat active addiction, medical illness, psychosis, or severe mental illness. Please consult with your doctor or therapist before attending.

“When we come back home to ourselves and start to trust and live by our inherent genius, we become the unstoppable force of nature we were born to be.”

— Dr. Saida Desilets

All-inclusive Pricing Includes

+ Lessons and practices
+ In-depth group work
+ Access to the the Imiloa Institute pool, lounge areas, waterfall, wildlife, and serene hikes
+ 6 nights of on-site lodging
+ Gourmet plant-based meals to nourish your body
+ Open-air dining and program space
+ Healing movement, resource integration, and meditation
+ Opportunities to reconnect with nature and yourself through mindful exploration
+ Dry campus (no substance use)
+ A completely closed/private campus just for our group
+ Short hopper plane ride via San Jose, Costa Rica Airport to the Imiloa Institute campus (ground shuttle available for an extra fee)
+ Detailed travel guidance
+ In-depth informational materials
+ Online pre-retreat gathering
+ Online post-retreat integration support

2025 Dates: This in-person retreat opens on December 11th and closes on December 17th
Retreat Location: Imiloa Institute in Costa Rica, an experienced host with a serene, private retreat center surrounded by nature

Not Included

Costs associated with passports (required), airfare, flight changes, airline baggage fees for any and all baggage, medical and travel insurance, vaccinations, gratuities for staff, spa services, and tours/excursions must be met by the participant.

Our Facilitators

Embodied Love™

Embodied Love is a global platform dedicated to making intimacy simple. Founded by Aaron Michael, MA, and Dr. Saida Désilets, their 50+ years of experience combined with their scientifically proven methodologies are revolutionizing intimacy, relationship, and sex coaching for individuals and couples. With three published books, over 20 online courses, bespoke programs, and the Embodied Love Lounge Podcast, they are changing how the world makes love.  

Dr. Saida Désilets wants to live in a world filled with audacious, sexually sovereign people living life on their own terms. As a TEDx speaker, researcher, counter-culture creatrix, body philosopher, and author, her work has touched the lives of millions globally. Dr. Saida's innovative approach to PsychoSexuality, desire, and pleasure invites both the public and professionals to better understand the importance of accessing their erotic genius. Her medically endorsed method integrates somatic awareness, neural and cellular re-patterning, and robust reframes of sensuality and sex, which all work in harmony to support the erotic individuation process. This work is an essential part of a medical protocol to transform sexual dysfunction with penetration and support sexual optimization, as well as part of the BrainTap and other Apps. When not researching or creating transformational programs, Dr. Saida enjoys leading Wilderness Safaris in South Africa and swimming in the Aegean Sea.

Aaron Michael, author of Optimal Sex Life, creator of Bedroom Masterclass, and the “World’s Leading Relationship, Intimacy, and Sexual Wellness Coach - Optimizing Sexual Health Beyond Dysfunction.” He is your Coach’s coach and has dedicated himself to helping others discover, explore, and integrate their sexual sovereignty by providing a pragmatic, pleasure-based, adult, sex-positive sex education. With over +5000 hours of sexological bodywork, his work has influenced over 100,000 people and two venture-funded startups, and he is the founder of Embodied Love™️, Embodied Consent™️ and Suction Sex™️—a new method for the embodiment of penetrative sex. Aaron has created multiple online courses, from “9 Naughty Nights” to “YEAHFAP” to “Awakening The Sensual Woman,” which support individuals to be able to give and receive ecstatic pleasure as well as enhance their mental and physical arousal. Aaron is sought out for his innovative approach to resolving issues such as genital pain, anorgasmia, premature ejaculation, penetration anxiety, mismatched arousal, and mental arousal. His method is at the core of scientifically proven and doctor-approved medical protocols for transforming sexual dysfunction, biohacking, and optimization. He has an MA in Cognitive Semiotics, where he specialized in adult romantic attachment, courtship, and how the brain interprets love. With over 20 years of experience as an embodiment coach in the fields of dating, relationships, and sex, he crafts bespoke embodiment programs to meet the specific needs and goals of you and your loved ones.

Aaron and Dr. Saida have joined their expertise by co-founding the soon-to-be-released, one-of-a-kind, comprehensive sexual wellness learning platform (Embodied Love University), a university-like education and community for sexual fluency and free education for all.

“There is a primal aliveness that belongs to every human.”

— Dr. Saida Desilets

Barbara Collier, BSN, LPC, SEP

Barbara Collier is a highly experienced somatic trauma psychotherapist, certified Somatic Experiencing® (SE™) Practitioner, and certified Embodied Psychosexual Practitioner (EPSP™), dedicated to guiding individuals, families, and children toward trauma recovery support and self-discovery. With a compassionate and integrative approach, Barbara addresses the complexities of developmental, intergenerational, sexual, and social/historical trauma. Her expertise also extends to integrative touch and movement therapies, where she supports both humans - and whenever possible and appropriate - alongside the wisdom of animals, with a focus on complex physical health conditions and chronic pain.

Barbara is the co-founder of Equinimity Tucson, a nonprofit organization providing somatically based, trauma-informed services to underserved populations. As a group facilitator, she brings a unique blend of her background as an ICU nurse and her extensive specialization in trauma-informed care. Her calm, grounded presence is a hallmark of her work, enabling her to hold space for touching deeply sensitive, personal material and supporting transformative group experiences.

In addition to her clinical practice, Barbara has had the privilege of co-teaching and assisting alongside Dr. Peter A. Levine, the founder of Somatic Experiencing, on multiple occasions. She also served as an assistant in Somatic Experiencing International core training programs.

Barbara’s personal journey with sexual trauma recovery is deeply woven into her professional calling. She comes from a lineage of intergenerational and ancestral wounds—stories long buried, spoken only in whispers. Growing up neurodivergent, she often felt overwhelmed, masking her true self in search of safety. At 16 years of age, she left her home due to abuse, hoping to leave the pain behind and create a new life. Yet, as so many discover, leaving a place does not mean leaving the wounds—and often, the cycle continues.

For years, Barbara has dedicated herself to gathering the fragmented pieces of her soul—those she once believed were broken, lost, or beyond reach. Slowly, she came to realize that these pieces had always been within her. Her journey has been one of remembering: uncovering the inherent wholeness that exists in each of us, even amidst unspeakable trauma. She has lovingly turned toward the marginalized and exiled parts of herself, inviting them home with patience and care.

Barbara’s diligent work and life journey brought her to a new edge: the shift from merely surviving to truly thriving. After lovingly parting ways with her partner of 25 years, she embarked on a deeper dive into sexual trauma recovery. This phase of her journey has included intensive work with somatic sex educators and practitioners, cultivating an even more attuned and compassionate relationship with herself. Through this process, she embraces the fullness of her vitality and reclaims her sexual sovereignty.

Barbara’s connection to nature and animals has been a vital part of her wholeness. The natural world became a profound teacher, offering her a deep sense of belonging that is tangible, repeatable, and joyful. She believes that “the original relational wounding” stems from the separation of humans from nature, and by extension, from their own bodies and inherent wholeness.

Barbara is guided by the belief that there is a profound wholeness within every being—a vast, interconnected wisdom and aliveness that is always present, even in the face of trauma. In this wholeness lies the potential for reconnection, and sovereignty.

“A wild, robust life awaits—one that honors your wholeness and the vibrant interconnection that has always been your birthright.”

— Barbara Collier

Beginning

Online Pre-Retreat Gathering

Our online pre-retreat meetup offers valuable benefits by fostering connection, preparation, and ease before the retreat. Meeting the team and fellow participants will help build trust and a sense of community, easing nerves and creating a supportive environment. During our time together, we will provide an opportunity to clarify expectations, address logistical questions, and align on the retreat’s purpose. Additionally, participants can share intentions, setting the stage for a more meaningful and connected retreat experience.

Integrating

Online Post-Retreat Gathering

Our group gathering and check-in after this intensive retreat will provide invaluable support for integrating insights and sustaining healing. It will offer a space for shared understanding, connection, and validation among those who have shared a transformative experience. Gathering will help you navigate challenges, reinforce new practices, and foster a sense of community and belonging. By participating in post-retreat reflection, guidance, and accountability, you can ensure that the retreat’s benefits are carried forward into daily life, promoting continued growth and healing.

*We will provide a referral list of SE Practitioners who work both in-person & online

“The retreat was life-changing. The skill and professionalism of the team were an inspiration and far exceeded my expectations. I entered with the goal of taking my personal development further and beginning a new path. I left with the clarity I was seeking, a clear plan, renewed enthusiasm, more tools to help me succeed, and precious new friends.”

— Sedona Retreat 2022

Location

The Imiloa Institute is an extraordinary retreat center that offers a perfect blend of luxury, natural beauty, and transformative experiences. Nestled in the lush jungles of Costa Rica, this world-class facility is designed to inspire growth, connection, and self-discovery. With breathtaking views of the ocean and rainforest, Imiloa provides a serene and rejuvenating environment where participants can immerse themselves in nature’s healing power. Its thoughtfully curated accommodations, farm-to-table cuisine, and state-of-the-art amenities create an unparalleled atmosphere of comfort and care. Known for hosting transformational retreats, Imiloa’s commitment to fostering community, inclusion, and personal evolution makes it a truly unique and inspiring destination for those seeking renewal and empowerment.

The Retreat gatherings and hosted meals are at the 5-star, 22-acre Imiloa Institute Campus.
Imiloa is located in the South Pacific area of Costa Rica, approximately 40 minutes north of Uvita and 1 hour of Manuel Antonio on the central Pacific coast.
The entire jungle is ours - with access to a private waterfall, a tranquil swimming hole with crystal clear water, miles of nature paths, and incredible flora and fauna.
Featuring an ocean-view infinity saltwater pool.
The private road is excellent for hiking, and adjacent acres allow endless exploration (some terrain outside the main roads is rugged, so please plan appropriately—no guided group activities will be on steep or overly strenuous terrain).
Fiber optic high-speed internet - certain parts of the campus, like the House of Masters, you’ll find intentionally without Wi-Fi.
2,000 feet above sea level, it is much cooler than the beach and has fewer bugs. The average temperature is under 85°F (27-33°C) during the day and 65-75°F (17-24°C) at night.
Spa Services at Imiloa (additional cost—booked directly with Imiloa): All spa services are tailored to individual needs, from Shamanic to Ayurvedic to Swedish, facials, relaxation, and Thai yoga massages; the schedule is tailored based on break times.
If you have any particular concerns regarding the property during the retreat, you will have Imiloa staff communication 24 hours a day via WhatsApp.

Main Imiloa Website

Important Information about the Imiloa Campus

Being in the Savegre mountains, our retreat offers a chance to explore the rugged terrain while immersing yourself in nature. Expect to navigate jungle paths with varying inclines, stairs, rocks, and exposed tree roots. We recommend wearing sturdy shoes like sneakers or strapped footwear for stability (such as Chacos, Keens or Tevas). While the trails accommodate a variety of fitness levels, a basic level of physical capability is advisable to fully enjoy the experience. Since we’ll be staying at a retreat center with indoor/outdoor elements, expect to be exposed to nature (including winds, geckos, lizards, and jungle bugs), as well as the sounds of monkeys, tropical birds, and cicadas.

Imiloa Gourmet Plant-Based Cuisine

Imiloa proudly serves conscious comfort food—healthy, locally sourced, gourmet vegan meals that are artistically plated, scientifically nourishing, and delightfully crafted for all of its retreat guests.

Daily Gourmet Meals at family tables in an open-air setting: Organic, plant-based meals crafted by a 5-star chef, with a nightly four-course dinner.
Fresh organic tea from the garden, local coffee, energizing snacks, and fruit throughout the day.
Water is UV triple-filtered from their mountain’s well and perfectly healthy and safe to drink from all faucets on the property.

Meal Allergies & Preferences
- During registration, there is an opportunity to indicate meal allergies and preferences.
- A special wristband indicating food allergies or modified food needs will be provided.

Eighty percent of guests report eating some animal product before arriving at Imiloa. On their guest surveys, one hundred percent rate their plant-based culinary experience at either 4.9 or 5.0 stars.

Travel

Detailed transportation guidance and a packing list will be provided to registered participants. Preliminary information is below.

The high-class experience starts in San Jose when you are brought to our private aircraft just for you and retreat participants to be flown 15-20 minutes to Quepos.
At the Quepos landing strip, the friendly Imiloa team will pick you up in SUVs. Your baggage will be delivered to your accommodation. Enjoy the 30-minute drive up the mountain to Imiloa.

We recommend traveling via San Jose Juan Santamaria International Airport (SJO).
A valid passport is required and must be valid at least six months after the date of travel.
Three weeks prior to departure for the retreat you must supply your up-to-date flight information.
Plan to arrive with wheels down no later than 7:30am on arrival day at San Jose International Airport.
The retreat cost includes the chartered hopper planes for the group; however, if you prefer ground transportation, this can be set up as an alternative—there will be an additional cost.
- The domestic terminal is a 5 to 10 minute walk from the international terminal.
- Please plan to arrive at the San Jose Domestic Airport by 8:45am on arrival day for our charter flight.
- On departure day, we will leave Imiloa at 9am after breakfast, and you will arrive to the San Jose International Airport at 11:30am. It is suggested to be at the international terminal 3 hours prior to your international departure; please book your departure time accordingly.

Lodging & Registration

PLEASE READ CAREFULLY BEFORE REGISTERING BELOW
Pricing is inclusive of all offerings listed above.

Each accommodation includes the comfiest mattresses, 850-thread-count sheets, storage space and dry rooms, fiber optic internet, daily cleaning service, private en-suite bath, indoor/outdoor design with a focus on nature and being in your own private refuge, and a thrice-filtered private well for drinking water throughout the property. Single, double, and triple occupancy are available.

Each participant must select their lodging, fill out their intake, and pay separately, even if attending together.
All prices are per person.
Lodging options vary from shared Geodesic River Domes to solo imported Bali Homes.
- There is limited availability for single rooms; book soon for this option.
- If you book a triple occupancy shared dome, we will create the best match based on the registration information you provide.
- One Jungle Bungalow and the Bali Villa Potoo are intended for a couple or two friends/relatives to share; book soon for one of these options.
The Refund Policy, Insurance Information, Registration Agreements, Imiloa Institute Guidelines & Additional Onsite Offerings, and Transportation information are posted within registration.
Please check your spam if you do not receive your automated registration receipt (this is common).
Your order will remain pending within our system until your attendance at the retreat is complete.
A welcome email will arrive within two weeks.

There are a limited number of $1,000 financial need/BIPOC scholarships available. Contact information is below for applicants. Healing Informed Somatic Education supplies all scholarships; scholarship donations are welcome but not common.

*The age requirement is 18 and up.
*Non-participating guests are not allowed on the grounds.
*Space is limited to 30 participants to ensure a deeply personal and transformative experience.

If you desire guidance in selecting lodging, please contact us.

“I have attended three in-person programs hosted by this team, and each time, they felt seamless in execution and plentiful in support. They are more than facilitators; they truly understand and embody their offerings.”

— Lisa, Participant

Ready to embark on this transformative 6-night all-inclusive journey?